To know yourself well, you have to answer some questions about yourself!
What do you want to realize in the next year? The next three years? What is your ten years plan? If you had all the money in the world and nothing to stop you,what would you want to do? What is your top twenty list of the things you would like to do most in the next ten years?Why consider all these relationship questions? The reason this is important, is that you want to choose to date people who have similar values as yourself.
One of the most common mistakes people make, and why they fail is because they are not looking in the right places. Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they have not been denied. But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and purpose. Otherwise, it is easy to become lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else's world. A healthy relationship is always mutual, it is an acknowledgement that both partners are equally valuable.You may be an ardent feminist, but a guy does not want to be confused about roles on the very first date. Let him open the car door for you, find the table at the restaurant, order the wine and pay the check. He will feel more comfortable knowing that when he is following the traditional pattern of courtship you accept it gratefully.You may be surprised to know this, but men will feel more attracted to you when they know that you are enjoying yourself because of something they have done. The best feeling a man can have is to know that he is made a woman happy.I do not mean that you should tell him how much you appreciate his every little action; rather, the fact that you are having a good time is all he needs to know. A date should not be hard work! If anything, HE is the one who should be working hard while you sit back, relax, and enjoy. Men love to be with women who set them at ease and make them feel comfortable to be themselves. Men find first dates just as stressful as you, so when they take out a woman who is relaxed and ready to enjoy herself, they immediately feel as if she was worth all the trouble it took to plan the date. So do not talk about anything negative, and avoid any "deep" conversations. Have fun together! Dates are a time to decide if you want to get to know each other better. The more interesting things you have to share about your life-hobbies, achievements, unusual experiences, unique interests-the more he will realize that there is a lot more about you that he has to discover. Do not give him your life story all at once. Mention the time you were a child and something funny happen to you... and move on to another topic, saying that you will tell him the full story another time. This tells him that you have given him permission to ask you out again.
Men prefer women with full, active lives to women whose only interest is to find a partner with whom to spend the rest of their life. If the only reason that you are going out on a date is to find The Man, you may want to reassess your priorities before you head out that door. Remember that you are a fulfilled, confident, amazing woman.
