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Attraction and Friendship |
By rainbow June 6, 2007, 7:16 am Is it possible to be happy just being friends if you are physically attracted to someone?
By hard June 6, 2007, 7:34 am Hi Rainbow!I think it's only as big an issue as the friends make it. I have female friends that I can look at and think, "Hey, she's pretty hot", but that doesn't nesscarily mean that i'll ever try and make a move on her.
By rainbow June 7, 2007, 1:37 am I'm agree with you...
By sunburnt June 7, 2007, 4:43 am I think you can still have friendships with people you are attracted to. It may be harder for some people, but I think it can be done.
By sweet June 7, 2007, 7:08 am I think its possible... im physically attracted to many of the opposite sex but that doesnt mean i am willing to enter a romantic relationship. i find that some of the men friends i have are good looking but i dont have feelings for them.
i think that it only becomes a problem when we start having romantic feelings towards them.
By wave June 8, 2007, 12:56 am yeah. there are people who you love very dearly but are not the sort of person you'd go out with. It's nothing against them it's just there are different sorts of people who mean different things to a person regardless of how wonderful they are.
By toto June 11, 2007, 5:15 am I think it's definately possible for men and women to be friends, even if they are attracted to each other. Sometimes it's hard at first, but you get over it.
I have one particular friend who I think is absolutely gorgeous, and we are very good friends, and nothing more. We get along fine, we spend time together as friends, and we talk to each other often and generally just enjoy each other's company. When I first met her it was a little hard being close to someone whom I found so attractive, but after a while it has less of an effect, and I value her friendship more than anything else.
I also have friends who other people find good looking, but I don't. I think of them as sisters, and wouldnt dream of being anything more than just friends with them.
I think to some extent, I find something attractive about all of my friends though. Not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. They have to be people with who I can actually stand to be around, so obviously they have to have some good qualities.
By mariana June 22, 2007, 1:02 am I say it can defiantly be done.Majority of my best male friends, either i have had some attraction for them, or them for me at one point in time. In all honesty, if that attraction hadn't been there, I dont feel that we would be as close as we are today had there not been that attraction. It brought us together and when we discussed the feelings it brought us closer without any resentment or hurt feelings.
I realise this isnt the case in every situation though
By choice June 28, 2007, 2:18 am I don't see having a physical attraction with a friend being a major issue for me. I have been physically attracted to friends before, and fortuneately for me, I can mask my emotions and feelings pretty well, so I am positive they were unaware of my feelings. I would have acted on these feelings if I honestly felt that the relationship would last, but it never has felt like that, and I don't want to throw away a friendship for a quick fling.I can understand why this would be problematic for others though. You just have to do whatever feels right
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