Paving the Road to Romance

There are a number of specific things that can be done to rekindle that romance. We’ll address a lot of them later on in the book, but first you must lay down the foundation before you start down the road. Becoming self-directed in your quest for a better marriage is a great way to start. Now let’s get a bit more in-depth.

First of all, you must face the facts. The notion that if your mate really loves you he or she will automatically change for you is usually an illusion. Here is where self-direction can help. Rather than demanding that your mate change for you, why not ask your mate what he or she would like you to change?

This can bring immediate positive benefits. As one partner begins to change, renewed respect follows, and an example is set for the other to follow. It's never easy to admit to personal faults and shortcomings, but, when we ask for them to be pointed out and take concrete steps to change them, the situation improves for both partners.

Be honest, and face the facts, even if you're uncomfortable taking these steps. Realize that you need to grow. When you do your marital relationship will also grow.