The answers, and the courage to face the facts is the key to making the determination. In infatuation, your gaze, your thoughts and maybe your world revolves around someone. You have blinders on. It seems that all the world pales in comparison to this person is looks, talents, intelligence, creativity....What you might not see by keeping the blinders on, what can be serious defect in any relationship, are the destructive traits and behaviors that degrade self esteem and cause some pretty negative effects on one is choices and decisions.
Many have had the experience of looking back at some early romance, in middle or high school perhaps, when we were „in love” with a special teacher, or camp counselor. It can be easier to see in retrospect, what you were not ready to see at the time. Your thoughts of romance were simply an innocent fantasy: An infatuation that felt like love at the time.
Aside from your age, what was it about you that made you make that mistake. Innocence? Loneliness?: A longing to grow up, maybe. But those were things going on in your head. In fact, these feelings had little to do with the actual object of your infatuation . It could be that some of those same feelings and needs exist for you today. Beware of your own vulnerability, and your own desire to „get rescued” from that solitary life of the unpaired.
In time, the faults that you refuse to see will begin to come to the foreground. You may be infatuated with a rich and powerful person, but as you come to know that person on a more intimate basis, the qualities that intrigued you will begin to fade into the background.
In the case of love, your focus is on your special someone, and that someone exists in the real world. Give and take, compromise and cooperation are characteristics of love relationships. Working toward common goals, sharing dreams and values define the dynamics of a good love relationship. People know each other on a separate and private level than the world at large.
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