Infatuation and chemistry are the same. Infatuated love equals chemistry and together infatuation and chemistry equal romantic love. Infatuation is not real love. Infatuation is romantic love and chemistry. Romance is part of chemistry and infatuation. We are infatuated with love.
Actually, infatuation and chemistry are essentially the same thing. And they are a very long way from real love.
That person who infatuates us is, in fact, the last thing we consciously want.
Why?He is unconsciously attracted to the way the woman demurely lowers her eyes when she is speaking; the way she is so agreeable.
He begins a conversation and infatuation strikes them both.
He protectively puts his arm around her, she nestles his head on his shoulder. Together they contemplate true love and happiness forever. Love? No, chemistry and infatuation! Romantic infatuation is an illusion of being in love with another person. In reality, we are in love with our missing selves. We are seeking fulfillment of our expectations by what our potential partner can give us through association.
Other psychologists have added that at least part of infatuation is buried memories of the first times we had actual contact of a sexual nature, even a quick fondle behind the barn.
We all recall our first dance. As women, we remember the way he held us kind-of close. Long after names are forgotten, those memories become part of "chemistry" or infatuation.
We are in love with infatuation!
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