If you get without giving, you are most likely to lose what you get.
The man has to bear in mind that when a woman shares her problems it is not accusation. When she complains, she just takes on less work of tension. On the other hand, woman can learn about how to show a man she appreciates him. She does not consider that she has to show her appreciation, because she supposes he knows how much she appreciates his readily to listen to her. But he does not know that. The man throws into confusion of problems, if he does not do something to solve it. When she says: „ Thank you.”, he understands that he helps her while he listen to her. Woman should not neither repress her feelings or change them, only to support her partner. She has to express these feelings so that he does not feel virtually she charges him. Some little changes can have big importance.
The four magic words of support for a man are:
„ It's not your fault.”
The man often reproaches the woman that she blames him when she speaks about her problems. It is very injurious to the relationship, because it blocks the association. When misunderstandings arise, you have to take time off to make sance of what your partner wants to say or think. Definitely this requires practice, but it is worth.
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