If Men and Women do not realize that they are supposed to be different, they can never get agreement.
We usually become angry or upseted with opposite sex because we forget this important truth. We expect the oposite sex to be more like ourselves. We want them to „want what we want” and „feel the way we feel.”
Ве wrongfully accept that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways – the ways we react and behave when we love someone. This adjustment bring us disappointment again and again and prevents us from taking the necessary time to communicate lovingly about our differences.
Men wrongly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way they do. Women wrongly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way they do. We forget that men and women are made to be different. That brings many unnecessary conflicts in our relationships. Clearly recognaizing and respecting these differances vastly reduces confusion in relations with the opposite sex. Everything can be explained and changed, if we remember our differents.
Men often mistake when offer solution and invalidate feelings while women offer spontaneous advices and instructions. And there is no one who made a request for this. When we understanding our differents we will uderstand why men and women unknowindly make these mistakes. By remmembering these differences we can repair our mistakes and immediately respond to each other in more acceptable and productive ways.
While Men feel inclined to seclusion and silently think about what is bothering them, women feel instinctive need to talk about what is bothering them.
Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.
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