Chemistry in love and relationchips is fueled by actual chemicals in our brains. Chemistry in love involves chemical highs. Chemistry clicks for love in relationships. We are in love with love chemistry. Chemistry is romantic love.
So what are we left with? Explanations, but nothing is still in our hands. What we know about love is still largely out of our control. For instance, infatuation. This is supposedly the first stage of falling in love, an unbearable attraction towards someone. This attraction causes a virtual explosion of nuerochemicals very similar to adrenalin. Assisted by Phenylethylamine -that speeds up the flow of information between cells-, dopamine -that makes us glow and feel good-, and norepinephrine -that stimulates the production of adrenalin-, make our world go round, our eyes sparkle and our heart beat faster. Our entire existence then depends on the sight of the person who started these reactions to begin with, and as the passion for the chemical grows stronger, our attraction becomes greater. At this stage we commit foolish mistakes which are the stuff puppy love stories are made of. Actually it is these three chemicals that combine to give us what we call infatuation. We feel we are energized, often floating on air…and the reason why people who are just falling in love can talk for hours on end… The same person becomes boring at a later stage.
Another interesting chemical is oxytoxin.It promotes the need to be physically held, have close contact with our potential partners and makes both the sexes more caring. It can be released simply by a lover’s look, smell or even a fantasy.
When infatuation subsides, another chemical takes over, which is responsible for intimate relationships. These chemicals are created by endorphins. They make a relationship steadier, intimate, trustworthy, warm and a great sharing experience. They do not convince of a giddy high, but calmness and stability…hence are the reason why people stay married. The longer they are married, the longer two people stay together, because this chemical is addictive. The two types of attachments can be summed up as follows…adrenaline love is being in love with the idea of being in love. While endorphins, we like loving someone.
Magic of love come out of a bottle after all....and continues to afflict us... generations after generation.
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