Put Forth Your Best “You”
Men, as we hear over and over again, are very visual. We always thought that becoming more attractive to men was about improving our appearance. As a teenager we were desperate to lose weight, get the perfect haircut, and wear the styles in the latest magazines. We wanted boys to pay attention to us, and we knew that the girls to whom they did pay attention had obvious physical assets. It was not about being smart or interesting or nice. It was about looks. What we did not know then is that most boys grow up.
Luckily for women, most men seek entirely different characteristics than boys. They learn to appreciate emotional warmth, depth, and generous loving. Although they still turn their heads to watch beautiful women pass, they are mature enough to appreciate a beautiful form without having to possess it.
Not all men grow up, of course.We all know men who have not yet learned the pleasure of settling down with one woman. Those men still tend to be attracted to looks, seeking out what is new, different, and unobtainable.
Mature men seek women who are not just good looking.Mature men seek women who are fun to be with, around who they feel they can be themselves. The mature man realizes that if he is going to spend the rest of his life with a woman, he needs to have more reasonable criteria than good looks. A woman who is in touch with her body, even though it is not perfect, is preferable to a woman who goes into hysterics if her hair or clothes are not perfect. A woman who is uninhibited, passionate, and loves life is preferable to a cool woman who lives life on display.
For the man who looks beneath the surface, a woman is a complete package: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. He must fall in love with all of those parts before he will invite her to spend a lifetime with him. What this means for us is that developing ourselves mentally, spiritually, and emotionally is just as important as perfecting our appearance. What we look like is just a quarter of the complete package.
Best of all, if you start focusing on developing yourself spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, you will find that you get enormous personal benefits. Your life will be happier. You will feel more content.
